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The Science of Trust in Relationships

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Blog on 19th October, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

In the short video below, renowned relationships researcher John Gottman discusses recent findings on the science of trust.  Significantly, he explains that betrayal is not the opposite of trust, and that one of the key […]

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Couples Counseling Success Story

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Blog on 8th October, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

I recently worked with a couple that came in with a serious break in their relationship.  They were pretty despairing and didn’t know how to handle the problem.  I give them a lot of credit […]

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A New Approach to Dealing with Cheaters

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Blog on 1st October, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

I’m not saying I recommend this, but it certainly is one avenue a person could take… www.cnn.com/2015/09/24/europe/cheating-husband-billboard-sign Looking for information on this issue that’s a little more helpful? Take a look at our services for […]

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Infidelity Now and Then

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Blog on 24th September, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

In the wake of the Ashley Madison leak, I got a lot of questions from friends and colleagues about the extent of the infidelity problem in America (at least, for those who consider it a […]

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#1 Marriage and Family Counselor in Baltimore!

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Blog on 1st September, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Hooray! We’re listed as the #1 marriage and family counselor in Baltimore on Thumbtack.com! https://www.thumbtack.com/md/baltimore/marriage-and-family-counselors/ Contact us today for help with all kinds of relationship issues, including: dating marriage infidelity/cheating breakups trust communication conflict resolution […]

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The Deal with Insurance and Marriage Counseling

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Blog on 23rd August, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

At the Baltimore Therapy Center we frequently get calls that begin like this: “Hi, I’m looking for marriage counseling. Do you take Blue Cross Blue Shield?” While the short answer is yes, there’s unfortunately a […]

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Boundaries: Inside and Out

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Blog on 6th August, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Check out our latest article on the Maryland Addiction Recovery Center‘s guest blog! http://www.marylandaddictionrecovery.com/boundaries-inside-and-out

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What to Expect in Couples Counseling

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Blog on 31st July, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Many clients call up for the first time wanting to know what couples counseling will be like. No doubt there is a nervousness there about starting a process that you don’t know much about. In […]

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Communication

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Blog on 24th July, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

This is a great relationship buzzword that gets thrown around a lot.  What does it do for us?  Check out this short video to see why we think helping couples develop their communication skills is […]

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The Only Thing I Can Give to My Daughter That Matters

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Blog on 14th July, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

I recently posted an article on Kveller.com, a site I enjoy sharing my personal experiences on. Check out my fun and educational story of the day I spent one-on-one with my four year old! http://www.kveller.com/the-only-thing-i-can-give-to-my-daughter-that-matters/ […]

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Assertiveness in Relationships

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Blog on 1st July, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Everyone has things they want and need out of the relationships they are in. Most people recognize that aggressive behavior is not a good way to get those things while maintaining the relationship at the […]

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New book!

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Blog on 23rd June, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

For those interested in the topic of domestic violence, a book has recently come out in which I contributed a chapter. The book’s intent is to help mental health/social service practitioners become culturally competent in […]

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Sexual Abuse Prevention: Words for Private Parts

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Blog on 8th June, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

There is a difference of opinions out there as to whether it is important to use the proper names for private parts when teaching children about their bodies and discussing sexual abuse issues (i.e., not […]

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My New Favorite Parenting Expert!

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Blog on 1st June, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

I recently chanced across an article by Andrea Nair and was so appreciative of it that I looked her up and ended up finding dozens more really helpful articles.  I agree with almost everything she […]

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Modern Communication Tools for Parents

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Blog on 28th May, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

This morning while dropping my kids off at school I spotted a mom driving her minivan into the carpool line while talking on a handheld cellphone.  I don’t know what the laws are in other […]

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Why Couples Remember Differently

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Blog on 11th May, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Do you ever argue with your significant other about who said what and when in which place?  Yes, of course you do. We all do. People are imperfect and our memories are imperfect. They are […]

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Parenting Issue: Children & iPads

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Blog on 6th May, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

I’m on TV! WBAL-TV interviewed me for my take on toddlers using iPads (See the accompanying article at http://www.wbaltv.com/news/limiting-childs-screentime-difficult-battle-for-parents/32819168).  Unfortunately, I think they did a so-so job representing my opinions, so let me clarify a […]

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Free-Range Parenting

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Blog on 4th May, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

A local Maryland couple in the news has once again raised discussion and debate about the free-range parenting movement.  Read more about it, including my opinions as quoted therein, at http://jewishtimes.com/36553/free-range. Learn more about our […]

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Mother Trouble

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Blog on 22nd April, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Check out our new video about one of our unique specialties – helping adults manage their relationships with their own parents!  We hear a lot of complaints about this kind of issue out in the […]

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Techniques in Childrearing #1

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Blog on 8th April, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

I’ll tell you a story. This story happened right around an hour ago. And I thought it was a good illustration of one of the principles I routinely teach about parenting, namely, distraction. With young […]

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How to Be a Better Spouse

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Blog on 29th March, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Here’s a helpful, if not entirely novel, article published by Scientific American on bettering one’s marriage.  I guess there’s a science to it after all! http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-to-be-a-better-spouse/ Learn more about our online and in-person marriage counseling […]

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The Mama Bear Effect – Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Coloring Pages

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Blog on 24th March, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

A friend of mine passed these along to me – coloring pages to be used in discussing sexual abuse with your children.  Check them out at http://themamabeareffect.org/coloring-pages.html. I think they are fantastic!  This can really […]

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6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is NOT BS

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Blog on 19th March, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

I recently came across this article by Laura Doyle entitled “6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is BS.”  While I actually found myself agreeing with many of the author’s comments on marriage, I obviously disagree strongly with […]

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The Truth About Married Sex

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Blog on 11th March, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

I thought that this article about sex in marriage was really worth sharing.  The basic premise is that sex in marriage is something you have to work at (like marriage itself, of course).  When you […]

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Why Moms Get Nothing Done

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Blog on 24th February, 2015 By Caitlin Chana Hill

Have you seen this video yet? This entertaining video gone viral by Story of This Life is generating a lot of conversation – over 3 million views on YouTube as of this writing! Many Moms […]

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The Importance of Listening

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Blog on 8th February, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Another guest post I wrote on a friend’s blog has generated some interesting conversation.  See the article and subsequent comments at https://incensefromthealtar.wordpress.com/2015/02/05/the-importance-of-listening. Learn more about our couples counseling services here.

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The Impact of Family on Weight Loss

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Blog on 2nd February, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

A guest post of mine on a friend’s weight loss blog: http://weightlosscounterrevolution.com/2015/01/30/the-impact-of-family-on-weight-loss/ Learn more about our family therapy services here.

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How to Recover from an Affair – When You’re the Cheater

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Blog on 23rd January, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Here’s another article I wrote on managing a relationship after an affair – this one directed at the cheater: https://www.wellness.com/blog/13274483/how-to-recover-from-an-affair-when-you-re-the-cheater/raffi-bilek Learn more about our work with couples and infidelity here.

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When Is Couples Counseling a Bad Idea?

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Blog on 11th January, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

As you may have guessed, I am a big believer in marital therapy/couples counseling. I think it is helpful for a lot of people, and I think many folks would be much happier if they […]

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How to Get Your Kids to Brush Their Teeth (and Other Stories)

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Blog on 4th January, 2015 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

My latest parenting article in the Where What When: Let me start with this question: How do you get your kids to brush their teeth every night? http://www.wherewhatwhen.com/article/how-to-get-your-kids-to-brush-their-teeth-and-other-stories Learn more about our parenting support services […]

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Make it Holiday NOT A Holler-day

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Blog on 23rd December, 2014 By Caitlin Chana Hill

Are you sitting there feeling overwhelmed with all the things you want to get done for the holidays. In fact you may be running around hollering at the fact that there is not enough time, […]

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Recovering from an Affair

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Blog on 15th December, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

An affair is often thought of as a death blow to a marriage –the worst thing that could possibly happen to the relationship, from which there can be no recovery. The truth is that a […]

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Parenting in the iPhone Age

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Blog on 10th December, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

An article I wrote in a local paper on a modern-day topic: http://jewishtimes.com/31779/parenting-in-the-iphone-age/   Learn more about our parenting workshops here.

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Gadget-Free Bedrooms

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Blog on 4th December, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Here’s an interesting article from the New York Times on relationships and technology – how do all our gadgets affect our intimate relationships? http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/04/style/are-gadget-free-bedrooms-the-secret-to-a-happy-relationship.html Learn more about our couples counseling services here.

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Do You Need Couples Counseling?

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Blog on 1st December, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Are you in need of couples counseling?  How would you even know whether you are or not?  Here are some questions you can ask yourself to determine whether you are a candidate for marriage counseling: […]

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Does My Mommy Have Two Mommies?

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Blog on 23rd November, 2014 By Caitlin Chana Hill

Adoption is not just an event in the life of a person; it is on ongoing reality in the life of a whole family. The adoption experience does not begin or end with the adopted […]

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How to Argue with Your Spouse without Solving Anything

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Blog on 19th November, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

An article I wrote about spousal disagreements has been posted on wellness.com: Arguments among dating and married couples have gotten a bad name. Sure, they cause anger, frustration, tears, breakups, and divorces, but apart from […]

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We’ve Got an App!

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Blog on 17th November, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Check it out here!

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Playdates Made Easy

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Blog on 14th November, 2014 By Caitlin Chana Hill

This article made me both laugh and cry out loud! Becoming a mother brings children, mess, a larger wardrobe, and fewer friends.  For people (like me) who thrive on social interaction and friendship, making time […]

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How to Be Married to a Woman

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Blog on 9th November, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

The sequel to my highly popular “How to Be Married to a Man:” How to Be Married to a Woman My article, “How to Be Married to a Man,” recently published in the Where What […]

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Getting Your Kids to Eat Their Dinner

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Blog on 2nd November, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Here is another column from the BJH in which I answer the classic question: How do I get my kids to eat their dinner??? Dear BJH, My kids are really great overall, but the one […]

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A Dog Named Depression

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Blog on 26th October, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

This short video offers an excellent perspective on what it’s like to be depressed.  Depression does tremendous damage to relationships.  If you or someone you love is suffering from depression, don’t hesitate to reach out […]

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Between Parents & In-Laws

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Blog on 19th October, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Here is a recent column of mine that appeared in a local newspaper discussing a common issue that comes up in families. While this person may or may not be a candidate for family therapy, […]

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Love after Adultery

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Blog on 8th October, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

It is commonly thought that adultery is a certain death blow to a marriage. After all, what could possibly do more injury to a relationship than an affair? It strikes us as the worst thing […]

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Supporting Others

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Blog on 8th October, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

I thought this article about supporting the people in your life was excellently presented. http://www.aish.com/sp/so/99754929.html Learn more about our counseling and therapy services here.

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Positive parenting won’t make up for yelling, insulting

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Blog on 8th October, 2014 By Caitlin Chana Hill

I thought this was a powerful article on positive parenting about the effect we as parents have on our children. Check it out: Young adults who had been criticized, insulted or threatened by a parent […]

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How to be Married to a Man

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Blog on 6th September, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

A local Baltimore magazine published an article I submitted this week, entitled “How to be Married to a Man.”  I highly recommend it for all people married to men.  I know there’s an awful lot […]

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Does Sexting Count as Cheating?

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Blog on 3rd September, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Many people aren’t sure how to answer this question. When a married man is sending inappropriate text messages to another woman (or vice versa), does that “count” as an affair? The answer is really a […]

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Kids Hear EVERYTHING

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Blog on 28th August, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Recently, I was sitting at dinner with my wife and kids and discussing the mundane issues of daily life.  At one point my wife mentioned to me something about putting the kids in camp for an […]

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Not Your Average Advice Column Response

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Blog on 14th August, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Here’s a little levity in the family therapy field (check out Amy’s response).  At the same time, it’s kind of sad.  Family problems always are. If you find yourself in a similar type of situation […]

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Four Ways to Fight with Your Spouse

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Blog on 21st July, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Here’s an article I found worth reading, about how to manage fights in your relationship without letting them destroy it. 4 Ways to Fight with Your Spouse without Destroying your Marriage Learn more about our […]

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I Follow My Own Marriage Advice – part II

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Blog on 30th June, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

How did I do it?  How did I get mad at my wife (see previous post on marriage advice) and get an apology in return instead of a retaliation?  Let’s take a look at why […]

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I Follow My Own Marriage Advice

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Blog on 29th June, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

One of the points I often make when talking about marriage is the critical importance of not talking about something that made you mad right after it happens. You cannot possibly accomplish anything productive at that […]

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Parenting Help for the Common Parent

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Blog on 8th June, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

The following is a true story.   My three-year-old was having a little attitude attack as my wife and I were trying to coax her into joining me in bed for a nap. She was […]

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Welcome!

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Blog on 14th May, 2014 By Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

I thought the following video was a good way to launch this blog – Happiness 101! After all, we’re all looking for happiness; I hope that my services and my website can be one piece […]

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