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Why Couples Remember Differently

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Blog on 11th May, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

Do you ever argue with your significant other about who said what and when in which place?  Yes, of course you do. We all do. People are imperfect and our memories are imperfect. They are imperfect not only in ways that make us forget things that happened, they are also imperfect in ways that make […]

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Parenting Issue: Children & iPads

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Blog on 6th May, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

I’m on TV! WBAL-TV interviewed me for my take on toddlers using iPads (See the accompanying article at http://www.wbaltv.com/news/limiting-childs-screentime-difficult-battle-for-parents/32819168).  Unfortunately, I think they did a so-so job representing my opinions, so let me clarify a little bit my position on toddlers using iPads: I did say that I don’t think it’s necessary for toddlers to […]

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Free-Range Parenting

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Blog on 4th May, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

A local Maryland couple in the news has once again raised discussion and debate about the free-range parenting movement.  Read more about it, including my opinions as quoted therein, at http://jewishtimes.com/36553/free-range. Learn more about our parenting support services here.

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Mother Trouble

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Blog on 22nd April, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

Check out our new video about one of our unique specialties – helping adults manage their relationships with their own parents!  We hear a lot of complaints about this kind of issue out in the community and just chatting with friends, but not a lot of people think to get professional help with it.  Sometimes, […]

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Techniques in Childrearing #1

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Blog on 8th April, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

I’ll tell you a story. This story happened right around an hour ago. And I thought it was a good illustration of one of the principles I routinely teach about parenting, namely, distraction. With young children, distraction is usually the first choice for intervention techniques in high-stress moments. To wit: My wife just came out […]

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How to Be a Better Spouse

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Blog on 29th March, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

Here’s a helpful, if not entirely novel, article published by Scientific American on bettering one’s marriage.  I guess there’s a science to it after all! http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-to-be-a-better-spouse/ Learn more about our online and in-person marriage counseling services here.

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The Mama Bear Effect – Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Coloring Pages

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Blog on 24th March, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

A friend of mine passed these along to me – coloring pages to be used in discussing sexual abuse with your children.  Check them out at http://themamabeareffect.org/coloring-pages.html. I think they are fantastic!  This can really help children become active in their learning important principles about staying safe from abuse.  Remember that this topic is not […]

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6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is NOT BS

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Blog on 19th March, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

I recently came across this article by Laura Doyle entitled “6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is BS.”  While I actually found myself agreeing with many of the author’s comments on marriage, I obviously disagree strongly with her contention that marriage counseling is baloney.  She says: 1. It starts with calling your spouse a loser Doyle contends […]

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The Truth About Married Sex

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Blog on 11th March, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

I thought that this article about sex in marriage was really worth sharing.  The basic premise is that sex in marriage is something you have to work at (like marriage itself, of course).  When you were 18 and dating you probably had to hold yourself back from sexual activity most of the time; unfortunately, that […]

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Why Moms Get Nothing Done

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Blog on 24th February, 2015 By Caitlin Chana Hill

Have you seen this video yet? This entertaining video gone viral by Story of This Life is generating a lot of conversation – over 3 million views on YouTube as of this writing! Many Moms out there LOL when they watch this video, recognizing the can’t-get-anything-done scenario and laughing at their own frustration. There’s no […]

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The Importance of Listening

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Blog on 8th February, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

Another guest post I wrote on a friend’s blog has generated some interesting conversation.  See the article and subsequent comments at https://incensefromthealtar.wordpress.com/2015/02/05/the-importance-of-listening. Learn more about our couples counseling services here.

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The Impact of Family on Weight Loss

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Blog on 2nd February, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

A guest post of mine on a friend’s weight loss blog: http://weightlosscounterrevolution.com/2015/01/30/the-impact-of-family-on-weight-loss/ Learn more about our family therapy services here.

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How to Recover from an Affair – When You’re the Cheater

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Blog on 23rd January, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

Here’s another article I wrote on managing a relationship after an affair – this one directed at the cheater: https://www.wellness.com/blog/13274483/how-to-recover-from-an-affair-when-you-re-the-cheater/raffi-bilek Learn more about our work with couples and infidelity here.

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When Is Couples Counseling a Bad Idea?

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Blog on 11th January, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

As you may have guessed, I am a big believer in marital therapy/couples counseling. I think it is helpful for a lot of people, and I think many folks would be much happier if they sought it out. However, there is an important exception to this claim, a situation in which couples counseling is not […]

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How to Get Your Kids to Brush Their Teeth (and Other Stories)

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Blog on 4th January, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

My latest parenting article in the Where What When: Let me start with this question: How do you get your kids to brush their teeth every night? http://www.wherewhatwhen.com/article/how-to-get-your-kids-to-brush-their-teeth-and-other-stories Learn more about our parenting support services here.

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Make it Holiday NOT A Holler-day

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Blog on 23rd December, 2014 By Caitlin Chana Hill

Are you sitting there feeling overwhelmed with all the things you want to get done for the holidays. In fact you may be running around hollering at the fact that there is not enough time, your kids are messing things up, or that the stores are out of what you need. Now my guess is […]

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Recovering from an Affair

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Blog on 15th December, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

An affair is often thought of as a death blow to a marriage –the worst thing that could possibly happen to the relationship, from which there can be no recovery. The truth is that a couple can still save their marriage . . . https://www.wellness.com/blog/13270625/how-to-recover-from-an-affair/raffi-bilek Learn more about our couples counseling services here.

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Parenting in the iPhone Age

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Blog on 10th December, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

An article I wrote in a local paper on a modern-day topic: http://jewishtimes.com/31779/parenting-in-the-iphone-age/   Learn more about our parenting workshops here.

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Gadget-Free Bedrooms

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Blog on 4th December, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

Here’s an interesting article from the New York Times on relationships and technology – how do all our gadgets affect our intimate relationships? http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/04/style/are-gadget-free-bedrooms-the-secret-to-a-happy-relationship.html Learn more about our couples counseling services here.

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Do You Need Couples Counseling?

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Blog on 1st December, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

Are you in need of couples counseling?  How would you even know whether you are or not?  Here are some questions you can ask yourself to determine whether you are a candidate for marriage counseling: Is your marriage/relationship more often negative than positive? Do you feel indifferent towards your spouse/significant other, or sense that s/he […]

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Does My Mommy Have Two Mommies?

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Blog on 23rd November, 2014 By Caitlin Chana Hill

Adoption is not just an event in the life of a person; it is on ongoing reality in the life of a whole family. The adoption experience does not begin or end with the adopted child, rather, it is an experience that touches many people, some for a moment, some for a lifetime. A friend […]

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How to Argue with Your Spouse without Solving Anything

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Blog on 19th November, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

An article I wrote about spousal disagreements has been posted on wellness.com: Arguments among dating and married couples have gotten a bad name. Sure, they cause anger, frustration, tears, breakups, and divorces, but apart from that, who doesn’t enjoy a good yell at their partner from time to time? https://www.wellness.com/blog/13270621/how-to-argue-with-your-spouse-without-solving-anything/raffi-bilek Learn more about our couples […]

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We’ve Got an App!

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Blog on 17th November, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

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Playdates Made Easy

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Blog on 14th November, 2014 By Caitlin Chana Hill

This article made me both laugh and cry out loud! Becoming a mother brings children, mess, a larger wardrobe, and fewer friends.  For people (like me) who thrive on social interaction and friendship, making time for social interaction is vital for our sanity.  And it can be done – once you recognize that it is […]

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How to Be Married to a Woman

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Blog on 9th November, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

The sequel to my highly popular “How to Be Married to a Man:” How to Be Married to a Woman My article, “How to Be Married to a Man,” recently published in the Where What When, earned me a lot of head nods and a couple of high-fives from male readers. It also led some […]

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Getting Your Kids to Eat Their Dinner

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Blog on 2nd November, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

Here is another column from the BJH in which I answer the classic question: How do I get my kids to eat their dinner??? Dear BJH, My kids are really great overall, but the one area that never seems to work out is dinnertime.  They simply don’t want to eat!  It always seems to be […]

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A Dog Named Depression

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Blog on 26th October, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

This short video offers an excellent perspective on what it’s like to be depressed.  Depression does tremendous damage to relationships.  If you or someone you love is suffering from depression, don’t hesitate to reach out for help.  It can turn your relationships around 180 degrees. Learn more about our counseling and therapy services here.

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Between Parents & In-Laws

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Blog on 19th October, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

Here is a recent column of mine that appeared in a local newspaper discussing a common issue that comes up in families. While this person may or may not be a candidate for family therapy, it is always worth considering the option of bringing in an objective third party to help resolve family conflicts. Learn […]

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Love after Adultery

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Blog on 8th October, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

It is commonly thought that adultery is a certain death blow to a marriage. After all, what could possibly do more injury to a relationship than an affair? It strikes us as the worst thing someone could do. Heck, it even made it into the Ten Commandments! I once heard a counselor say to me, […]

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Supporting Others

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Blog on 8th October, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

I thought this article about supporting the people in your life was excellently presented. http://www.aish.com/sp/so/99754929.html Learn more about our counseling and therapy services here.

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Positive parenting won’t make up for yelling, insulting

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Blog on 8th October, 2014 By Caitlin Chana Hill

I thought this was a powerful article on positive parenting about the effect we as parents have on our children. Check it out: Young adults who had been criticized, insulted or threatened by a parent growing up were more likely to be anxious or depressed, in a new study. Even when the same or another […]

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How to be Married to a Man

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Blog on 6th September, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

A local Baltimore magazine published an article I submitted this week, entitled “How to be Married to a Man.”  I highly recommend it for all people married to men.  I know there’s an awful lot of you out there.  Even if you don’t need couples counseling, I am hopeful these tips will help you out!  […]

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Does Sexting Count as Cheating?

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Blog on 3rd September, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

Many people aren’t sure how to answer this question. When a married man is sending inappropriate text messages to another woman (or vice versa), does that “count” as an affair? The answer is really a subjective one. When a man cheats on his wife, or a woman on her husband, the problem is not so […]

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Kids Hear EVERYTHING

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Blog on 28th August, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

Recently, I was sitting at dinner with my wife and kids and discussing the mundane issues of daily life.  At one point my wife mentioned to me something about putting the kids in camp for an extra few days. My six-year-old daughter piped up and cheerfully asked, “Because you don’t want to deal with the kids, […]

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Not Your Average Advice Column Response

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Blog on 14th August, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

Here’s a little levity in the family therapy field (check out Amy’s response).  At the same time, it’s kind of sad.  Family problems always are. If you find yourself in a similar type of situation with your family problems, give us a call.  This is exactly the kind of thing we can help you with. […]

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Four Ways to Fight with Your Spouse

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Blog on 21st July, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

Here’s an article I found worth reading, about how to manage fights in your relationship without letting them destroy it. 4 Ways to Fight with Your Spouse without Destroying your Marriage Learn more about our couples counseling services here.

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I Follow My Own Marriage Advice – part II

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Blog on 30th June, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

How did I do it?  How did I get mad at my wife (see previous post on marriage advice) and get an apology in return instead of a retaliation?  Let’s take a look at why people often offer resistance rather than a deserved “sorry.” When we apologize for something, we are admitting that we are […]

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I Follow My Own Marriage Advice

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Blog on 29th June, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

One of the points I often make when talking about marriage is the critical importance of not talking about something that made you mad right after it happens. You cannot possibly accomplish anything productive at that moment and you can only make things worse. So let me tell you a story. A few days ago, my […]

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Parenting Help for the Common Parent

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Blog on 8th June, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

The following is a true story.   My three-year-old was having a little attitude attack as my wife and I were trying to coax her into joining me in bed for a nap. She was loudly insisting that my wife obey her every command. “DON’T GO THERE! TAKE THIS! DON’T MOVE!” As Mom casually went about […]

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Welcome!

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Blog on 14th May, 2014 By Raffi Bilek

I thought the following video was a good way to launch this blog – Happiness 101! After all, we’re all looking for happiness; I hope that my services and my website can be one piece in your achieving it.    

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