I thought that this article about sex in marriage was really worth sharing. The basic premise is that sex in marriage is something you have to work at (like marriage itself, of course). When you were 18 and dating you probably had to hold yourself back from sexual activity most of the time; unfortunately, that same kind of desire and excitement is not the norm in marriage.
Sexuality in marriage is very different from what it is in dating. Marriage is nicely designed for security, stability, and constancy. These are not necessarily great aphrodisiacs. People get turned on by newness and spontaneity; in all areas of life it is hard to do the same thing over and over again. As one rather crude cabby once put it to me, “how long can you eat omelettes for breakfast every single day?” Managing and growing a satsifying sexual relationship within marriage is certainly a challenge. This article suggests four ways to get started.
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