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The Risks of Picky Eating (How Bad Is It Really?)

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Blog on 4th September, 2019 By Raffi Bilek

Have you seen this alarming article yet? ‘Picky’ teen goes blind after diet of only fries and chips, study says. Apparently a British teenager refused to eat anything but “french fries, Pringles, white bread, processed ham slices, and sausage” and the lack of proper nutrients actually caused him to go blind. So this is probably […]

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Why Don’t My Adult Children Want to Talk to Each Other?

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Blog on 14th August, 2019 By Raffi Bilek

The past couple of posts have been addressing parents of adult children and discussing the family conflicts that are not uncommon in such relationships. Continuing on the theme, I’d like to touch on the issue of strained relationships between adult siblings. This is often a cause of great pain for older parents who feel their […]

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Why Don’t My Adult Children Want to Talk to Me?

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Blog on 22nd July, 2019 By Raffi Bilek

In our last post I offered some ideas on how parents can go about reconnecting with adult children who have become distant and disconnected. In this post I’d like to talk a bit more about what is often behind that distance. Why have your kids decided to distance themselves? Obviously, there are many possible answers […]

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How Do I Repair My Relationship with My Adult Child?

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Blog on 20th June, 2019 By Raffi Bilek

You spent decades of your life raising your children. You poured your love, time, effort, and money into giving them the best life you could. Sure, you made mistakes along the way, but you tried your best. You only wanted good things for them. So why don’t your kids want to talk to you? Why […]

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Porn in Committed Relationships Revisited

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Blog on 30th May, 2019 By Raffi Bilek

One of the most read posts on this blog is where I talk about Is It Okay for Married People to Watch Porn? Recently a commenter asked the following question: What about marriage counselors that suggest a link between a woman’s lack of sexual desire and her lack of erotic imagination? The claim is that […]

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The 5 Things You Need for Family Therapy to Work

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Blog on 13th May, 2019 By Raffi Bilek

There’s been conflict in your family for some time now, and you’re ready to finally get some professional help with it. Strong personalities within a family can make it very hard to change the system without some objective input from the outside. Family therapy can be a really helpful venue for making the changes everyone […]

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Why You Should Try Couples Counseling (Again)

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Blog on 15th April, 2019 By Raffi Bilek

Is your relationship struggling, and couples therapy didn’t help? What else can you do about it? One answer is – try couples counseling again. Here’s why.

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How often do normal couples have sex? (The answer may surprise you.)

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Blog on 19th February, 2019 By Raffi Bilek

How often do normal couples have sex?  As frequently or infrequently as they want. This question is erroneously based on the idea that there is some number, or even a range, that we have to hit in order to be normal. It ain’t so.  A healthy, happy sexual relationship is one in which both parties […]

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Top 5 Couples Therapy Techniques You Can Use at Home (that really work!)

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Blog on 29th January, 2019 By Raffi Bilek

There are many couples therapy techniques you can try out on your own. Here are a few you can start with today!

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Jeff Bezos is Telling You Something

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Blog on 11th January, 2019 By Raffi Bilek

As the wealthiest person in the history of the world, Jeff Bezos can make news just by switching his preferred brand of morning coffee.  However, the news of his impending divorce (and immediate attachment to another partner) seems to be significant in a different kind of way. It’s not just that Jeff is super-rich and […]

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How to Make New Year’s How to Make New Year’s Resolutions Stick

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Blog on 26th December, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

New Year’s resolutions – everyone makes ‘em, few keep ‘em. Why is this so? And how can we do it differently so we can finally make our New Year’s resolutions stick?

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5 Tips to Survive Holidays with the Family

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Blog on 19th November, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

As the holiday season bears down on us, many folks find their anxiety levels spiking in anticipation of yet another stressful family holiday. 

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4 Steps to Surviving Infidelity – What You Need to Know

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Blog on 29th October, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

Crushed. Devastated. Hopeless. These are some of the emotions you may be experiencing if you have recently discovered that your partner has been having an affair.

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The Escape Room: A Message for Couples and Families

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Blog on 8th October, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

Recently I had the great pleasure of going to an escape room for a bit of family fun. If you’re not familiar,

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The Single Most Important Trait You Need to Develop to Save, Repair, and Maintain a Relationship

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Blog on 5th September, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

Can it really be so simple? Is there really a Single Most Important key to relationships?  Yes and no.  Obviously there is no magic spell for fixing relationship problems or keep relationships vibrant and connected over the long term. There is certainly a lot of work involved.  But I believe that there is one trait, […]

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Good Job is Not Enough

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Blog on 9th August, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

It is generally accepted in today’s generation of parents that praise and encouragement are the tools of choice in childrearing rather than some past methods such as yelling, shaming, and, of course, whupping. Praise and encouragement have taken the place of criticism and disparagement.  The catchphrase of the new mentality might be pithily captured in […]

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What is a first therapy session like?

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Blog on 19th July, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

Most people have never been to therapy before and are understandably a bit nervous about what the first therapy session going to be like.  If you’ve gotten up the courage to make that first appointment, you may now be wondering how you’ll even know if it’s going to work?  How long do you have to […]

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How to Get Over a Breakup

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Blog on 25th June, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

The end of a relationship is never easy, especially if you’ve been together for years.  This is true even if you know the relationship was going sour, or was unhealthy to begin with. The truth is that we are human, and our emotions aren’t always rational or logical. They just are.  How can you effectively […]

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What Do You Do in Couples Counseling?

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Blog on 6th June, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

If you’ve never been to relationship counseling before, the whole thing might seem mysterious, confusing, and downright frightening. The truth is it’s really not as bad as you think it is. The representations of therapy you’ve seen on TV are almost certainly inaccurate – maybe you’ve seen people bopping each other with foam bats, engaging […]

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Making Your Marriage a Priority

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Blog on 8th May, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

Recently I was interviewed on the radio to discuss the question of how to prioritize your relationship with your spouse vs. your kids. You can listen to the 20-minute segment here. Here’s the spoiler: I come down firmly on the side of keeping your spouse #1 on your list. This of course doesn’t mean that […]

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We’ve Moved! And It’s Not Easy

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Blog on 17th April, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

Change is hard. This is a truth I live by professionally, but it is also a reality in my personal life.  This week we are moving to a new office, and I must admit that it stresses the heck out of me. I’ve already been through the crucible of finding the right place. I spent […]

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How to Save Your Marriage

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Blog on 14th March, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

Are you trying to save a marriage that’s on the rocks?  Hoping to turn things around from anger and resentment to happiness and love?  It can be done.  Most marriages can be repaired if both parties really want it – but that doesn’t mean it will be easy.  You will likely have to have some […]

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Is Texting Good or Bad for Your Relationship?

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Blog on 20th February, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

Texting is a very wonderful thing.  It allows us to send quick ideas and comments to our friends and families without having to catch each other at the right time.  It’s great for adding to the shopping list at the last minute or reminding each other of an appointment.  It can add all kinds of […]

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Is It Okay for Married People to Watch Porn?

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Blog on 30th January, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

No. Okay, that was a little harsh.  But hear me out.  This is not a moral discourse on the propriety of pornography in general but rather a consideration of what it does to your marriage (or other committed relationship). While some writers have waxed enthusiastic about the benefits of porn watching, common sense – to […]

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Don’t Start Couples Counseling Before You Read This!

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Blog on 10th January, 2018 By Raffi Bilek

If you are considering seeing a couples counselor/marriage therapist to address a problem in your relationship, there are a few things it’s vital for you to know before you jump in. 1. Be prepared to change Many people come in to couples therapy feeling like their spouse or partner is causing the problem.  They ask […]

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How do you make a long-distance relationship work?

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Blog on 27th December, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

In these days of constant change and mobility, long-distance relationships are increasingly common and necessary as people take jobs and pursue life goals that move them about the globe. There’s no question that a long-distance relationship poses challenges that typical relationships, where people live with or near each other, do not.  That does not mean […]

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Are You in An Abusive Relationship?

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Blog on 11th December, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

All relationships have ups and downs. Some seem to have more downs than others. A relationship that’s on the rocks can often be fixed with commitment on the part of both partners and with professional counseling.  However, some relationships are abusive, and these cannot be repaired until the abusive partner decides to change his or […]

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Communication at the Office

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Blog on 21st November, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

Office politics are such a well-known phenomenon that entire television series have been successfully spawned from it. As most everyone knows, you are bound to run into difficult people at work. Fortunately, in most cases this doesn’t mean you have no choice but to suffer for the 8-or-so hours a day you’re there. The rules […]

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How to Deal with a Difficult Coworker

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Blog on 26th October, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

Following the recent office shooting not too far from Baltimore, many people have been feeling increased nervousness and tension in their offices. Having trouble with a coworker or employer is a common experience; but who wants that to turn into the kind of nightmare that the victims of this attack had to go through?  How […]

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On Patience

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Blog on 17th October, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

Recently I had a conversation with a client about patience.  He was working on trying to be more patient, especially as it related to the people in his life, and found himself losing his cool more frequently than he wanted.  This led to an important discussion about the meaning of patience which I thought was […]

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Anger in Relationships

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Blog on 18th September, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

Anger is one of the major destroyers of relationships. People can say and do things when they are angry that are offensive, hurtful, even downright mean. But anger is a normal part of the human emotional makeup, and it’s only natural to feel angry sometimes. How can you deal with angry feelings without harming your […]

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4 Ways to Fight Depression

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Blog on 30th August, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

If you’ve been feeling down a lot lately, always tired, not in the mood to do much of anything, you may be suffering from depression. Depression is different from just feeling sad, and it is a medical condition that should not go ignored. While medical interventions such as psychiatric medication may be helpful or even necessary […]

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To Give and To Get: A Relationship Formula

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Blog on 23rd August, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

This is a guest post by a colleague of mine in Chicago, Josh Hetherington of the Northside Center for Relationship Counseling. Mindfulness Lately I’ve been reconnecting with some Buddhist writing. It underscores a lot of ideas about mindfulness, which I see as a nearly universally useful concept. Everyone can benefit from a mindfulness practice. I […]

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How to Have a Fair Fight

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Blog on 10th August, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

Arguments are a natural part of any relationship. No two people will agree on everything all the time. Disagreements are bound to happen. Slight offenses are inevitable.  But how do you deal with them in a way that is productive and not destructive? What does a fair fight look like? Talk about yourself, not your […]

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Can an Affair Help the Relationship?

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Blog on 13th July, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

Many people believe that infidelity unavoidably spells the end of a relationship.  However, the truth is that many relationships survive the injury of an affair, and in fact many get much better in the aftermath.  If you find yourself in this unfortunate situation, you don’t need to despair of your relationship; it can certainly be […]

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Baltimore’s Best Couples Counselor: Inside Business Weekly

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Blog on 29th June, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

Check out this review of our practice picked up by Inside Business Weekly!  You’ll see why we’re considered the place for the best couples therapy and how we can help you achieve the relationship you’re looking for. Contact us today to get started!  

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Parenting Tools: Noticing

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Blog on 14th June, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

Young children are constantly running to their parents to show them what they’re doing or playing with – “Mommy look! I put a hat on the baby doll!” “Daddy, see the picture I drew?”  Often our instinctive response is to gush how wonderful it is or how talented they are.  It’s not a terrible response […]

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A Simple Parenting Tool – Stories

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Blog on 5th June, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

I’d like to share with you a handy parenting tool that is easier to use than it might sound.  It’s nothing brilliant or novel – just one of those things sitting under your nose all this time.  It’s called “stories.”  Yup, that’s it. Nothing new, right?  Well, let’s talk about how you can use them. […]

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How Do I Get My Kids to Eat Their Vegetables?

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Blog on 25th May, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

Another common battleground for parents with young children is mealtime.  Getting kids to eat their proverbial veggies has been a vexing problem since time immemorial.  Just as we noted with bedtime, it’s unlikely you will ever have children who are 100% compliant with your wishes 100% of the time.  Nevertheless, there are certain steps you […]

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How to I Get My Kids to Go to Bed?

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Blog on 16th May, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

If you have young children, you don’t need me to tell you what it’s like getting through bedtime.  The hassle, the arguments, the frustrations – it happens to all of us.  Don’t worry – it’s not just you!  Bedtime is often one of the most challenging times of day. And the truth is, no matter […]

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Couples Counseling: Not a Last Resort

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Blog on 8th May, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

All too frequently, the couples I see in my office for marriage counseling/couples therapy are at the end of their rope.  There has been trouble in the relationship for a long time; months, years, or even decades of fighting, harsh words, and distance have seriously worn away at their bonds of love and commitment.  They […]

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The Five Love Languages: Finding Your Language

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Blog on 24th April, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

Okay, so, we’ve talked a lot about the different Love Languages. But how do you know which is yours? Below we’ll discuss a couple of ways you can try to determine which language fits you best. You and your partner can both try to figure out for yourselves, and for each other, what your love […]

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Depression vs. Sadness and What You Can Do About It

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Blog on 10th April, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

We’re taking a break from our regularly scheduled posts on the Five Love Languages to bring you this exclusive special in which I was invited to a local TV station to do a short bit on depression.  Here’s the clip with a brief discussion, with some further elaboration to follow: Depression vs. Sadness One of […]

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The Five Love Languages: Physical Touch

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Blog on 20th March, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

The last of the Five Love Languages is Physical Touch.  This one is in some ways very easy and in some ways very hard. It’s very easy because it’s pretty clear what we’re referring to when we say “physical touch.”  But it can also be very hard because for many people, it’s simply not natural. […]

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The Five Love Languages: Acts of Service

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Blog on 6th March, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

The fourth of the Five Love Languages® is called Acts of Service.  For some people, actions indeed speak louder than words. Of course, just as with Words of Affirmation you can’t speak nicely while neglecting the other aspects of your relationship and expect to come out on top, so too it should be noted that […]

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The Five Love Languages: Receiving Gifts

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Blog on 21st February, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

The third Love Language is Receiving Gifts.  This one is easy to grasp, but it sometimes gets a bad rap because to some people it smacks of materialism.  In fact, a person whose Love Language is Receiving Gifts may or may not be materialistic, just the same as anyone else. There is a big difference […]

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The Five Love Languages: Quality Time

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Blog on 9th February, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

In the last post I described the love language of Words of Affirmation.  The second language is called Quality Time, and you probably have a fair idea what that’s about without needing much a definition.  As you would expect, it means that some people primarily feel loved by spending time with you.  There are various […]

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The Five Love Languages: Words of Affirmation

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Blog on 24th January, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

Words of Affirmation is the first of the love languages described in Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages system. For people whose primary love language is Words of Affirmation, it’s what you say that counts.  This of course does not mean that you can act like a slob, forget your wife’s birthday gift or cheat on […]

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The Five Love Languages

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Blog on 9th January, 2017 By Raffi Bilek

The Five Love Languages® is a great tool for improving relationships, whether you’re at the beginning of a new relationship or you’ve been married for decades.  It is a very simple and understandable method of connecting with your significant other – as well as your children, parents, siblings, friends, and anyone else you are in […]

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Four Ways to Identify a Bad Therapist

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Blog on 7th December, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Following up on our last post, let’s talk a bit about what possible red flags to look out for when searching for a therapist in Baltimore or anywhere else.  Unfortunately, as we mentioned last time, it’s not that hard for a nasty person to get a master’s degree and a counseling license, provided that s/he […]

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How Do I Find a Therapist?

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Blog on 15th November, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

So you’re looking for a therapist in Baltimore.  Maybe you typed “Baltimore therapist” into Google and it sent you here.  But how do you find the right “Baltimore therapist” for you?  What goes in to choosing a good therapist – and not just a good therapist, but a good therapist for you? That’s an important […]

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How Long Does Couples Counseling Take?

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Blog on 3rd November, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

This is a question I get asked all the time. How long will it take?  How many sessions do people usually need?  People rightly want to know how much time and money they will be investing into this process.  Unfortunately, there is really no way to give any useful answer to this question.  Let me […]

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Couples Counseling – What’s It All About?

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Blog on 10th October, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

What is couples counseling? Couples counseling goes by various names: couples therapy, marriage counseling, marital therapy, relationship counseling, and more. These are all ways of framing the same process, namely, trying to help a couple (whether married or not) achieve a better level of functioning. What this means is that when one or both parties […]

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Stop a Fight Before it Starts

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Blog on 5th October, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Ever find yourself in a situation where a fight is brewing and you know it’s coming but don’t know how to avoid it?  Check out this link for a post explaining just that. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/how-to-stop-fight-with-your-partner-before-it-starts-1004164

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Family Therapy: Parental Transitions

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Blog on 26th September, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

In the previous post we cited a number of examples of role changes that can lead to conflict in the home and the importance of family therapy for managing these transitions.  There we focused primarily on the changes experienced by the daughter in a relationship (see here for why I am using female protagonists in […]

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Mothers & Daughters: Changing Roles

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Blog on 8th September, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Why do relationships between mothers and daughters that are warm, loving, and peaceable turn into battlegrounds of conflict and frustration?  What happens that causes such a drastic change, often in so short a time? The usual culprit is transition.  Life transitions are generally a period of personal instability and therefore instability in relationships. This can […]

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Family Therapy: Parents & Children

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Blog on 24th August, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

We frequently get calls for family therapy, specifically regarding troubled mother/daughter relationships.  These include young parents with school- or preschool-aged children, middle-aged women with their teenage/young adult daughters, and even up to elderly women who still struggle with having a proper relationship with their adult daughters. Why does this particular relationship so often run into […]

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How to Catch a Cheating Husband

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Blog on 8th August, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

If you are looking to catch your husband (or wife, boyfriend, etc.) cheating on you, you actually have two problems at hand, not one.  The first, of course, is that your husband might be cheating on you.  The other, however, is that you have a relationship with your husband which is adversarial – meaning you […]

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“I Caught My Husband Watching Porn”

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Blog on 27th July, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

If you’ve just discovered your boyfriend or husband watching porn online – perhaps extensively – you may be feeling shock, anger, disappointment, betrayal, and more.  You also may be confused about what this means for your marriage. Or, you might be very clear about whether you want to fix it or end it.  Many women […]

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Call for a Free Counseling Consultation!

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Blog on 19th July, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Call today : 443-598-2821 (you can text us too!) Getting started on the process of therapy isn’t easy.  Especially if you’ve never done it before, you might be a little bit confused or nervous about what to expect (but see here for some information on that).  If you’re thinking about coming for counseling on your […]

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Millennial Love

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Blog on 12th July, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Check out this recent article for which I was interviewed by ABC staff: http://www.abc2news.com/bachelor/millennial-love-one-right-swipe-at-a-time It discusses modern dating and how technology has made a significant change in the dating landscape.  There’s no question that Tinder, OKcupid and the like have altered the way people meet and date.  If you’ve ever read an Archie comic, you’ll […]

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The Kids Were Difficult Tonight

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Blog on 6th July, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

An amazing thing happened in my house last night. I was out for the evening, and I came home to find a tired but relatively cheerful wife and three sleeping children. This is what I would call an excellent outcome for a nighttime routine executed with only one parent. But that wasn’t the amazing part. […]

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Save My Marriage!

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Blog on 27th June, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

I’ve noticed that a lot of requests for help that come through e-mail, text, or sites like Thumbtack.com list “save my marriage” as the reason for seeking help. So I thought I’d let you know in advance – I can’t do that. A lifeguard can save someone’s life often even in the face of their […]

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Bariatric Surgery and Self-Esteem

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Blog on 16th June, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Bariatric surgery and self-esteem are obviously intricately intertwined with each other. Most people who suffer from obesity naturally struggle with their self-esteem, especially in a culture such as ours where beauty and thinness have been entirely conflated and where photoshopped models grace every other advertisement we see. It is certainly difficult in America to be […]

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A Letter to Mom

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Blog on 2nd June, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Yes, this is an actual picture of me at something like 15 and my real-life mom. I believe we’re on a biking trip in one of the Carolinas.  The exceptionally poor quality is due to this having been taken at twilight with one of those yellow plastic disposable cameras.  (Remember those?) So this post is […]

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After the Affair: The Importance of Coming Clean Entirely

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Blog on 31st May, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

When someone has an affair and is discovered or comes clean on their own, their instinct is often to soften the blow and/or minimize the damage, especially if they still care about their partner and want to cause the least pain possible. As a result, they will reveal only a part of the information, or […]

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Eight Truths about Domestic Violence Victims

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Blog on 19th May, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

This is a powerful article describing what it is like to be a victim of domestic violence – and what victims want you to know. http://www.mamamia.com.au/domestic-violence-victims/ Learn more about our domestic violence education services here.

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How In-Laws Can Support a Marriage

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Blog on 12th May, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Parents-in-law have been known to cause grief in many a marriage, but they can also be of tremendous help to it.  In this article I touch on just a few important notes for how parents of adult offspring can do right by their children and their children’s spouse. http://www.marriage.com/advice/counseling/how-in-laws-can-support-a-marriage/ Learn more about our family counseling […]

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Time Management for Busy Moms and Others

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Blog on 2nd May, 2016 By Caitlin Chana Hill

Life in the modern era has become more and more of a sophisticated juggling act. Time management skills have become increasingly important: work, family, leisure, health – managing all our responsibilities is no easy feat. And if you have kids, well, it’s like having more balls to juggle and fewer hands! How do we learn […]

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Therapy for Women

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Blog on 18th April, 2016 By Caitlin Chana Hill

Why a post on therapy for women?  Is therapy somehow different for women than for men?  Do they face different issues? The answer is yes and no. Certainly the problems we help clients with are universal: anxiety, depression, loneliness, heartbreak, self-control, self-esteem, and more. But often these manifest differently in men and women, just as […]

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New therapist – Shira Feldman

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Blog on 11th April, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

We are proud to welcome Shira Feldman as our newest staff member at the Baltimore Therapy Center!  Shira is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LGMFT) from Philadelphia and has been doing in-home therapy for some of Baltimore’s neediest clients. Her training and passion is in working with family systems, including marriage, parent-child relationships, and […]

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Do You Have a Family Member with Borderline Personality Disorder?

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Blog on 31st March, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

It is not uncommon for us to field calls from people looking to get help for someone other than themselves. One common category of such callers is the family member of someone with borderline personality disorder. If you have a relative with this diagnosis, this probably comes as no surprise to you. Borderline personality disorder […]

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 Bariatric Surgery and Therapy

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Blog on 21st March, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

So what’s the connection between bariatric surgery and therapy? If you’ve gotten the operation done or are considering it, you are probably aware that you have to do a psychological evaluation before going through with it. (Yes, we offer these, and we explain what this is all about here.) But what about after the surgery […]

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Counseling, Time, and Change

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Blog on 14th March, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Every now and then I hear about a “great new therapy” that promises fast results and lasting change (often after a single session or treatment). I am highly skeptical of such approaches and I encourage you to do some due diligence before signing up for one. The process of human change is not nearly as […]

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4 Things to Do to Make Child Rearing Easier

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Blog on 29th February, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Here’s another article I wrote for Marriage.com, offering a few simple tips for making life as a parent a little bit easier: http://www.marriage.com/advice/parenting/4-things-to-do-to-make-child-rearing-easy/ Learn more about our parenting support services here.

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Making Marriage Last

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Blog on 22nd February, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

I have a new catchphrase: To make your marriage last, make your marriage first. I’m pretty sure I invented it, and Google seems to agree. (So does Bing!) So you heard it here first, folks. Although the line is new, the idea is certainly not. We therapists and marriage counselors have been saying it for […]

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Single on Valentine’s Day?

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Blog on 13th February, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Many people seek out counseling to help them answer the nagging question: “Why can’t I find the right person for me?” Being single can be a real drag, especially as you get older and watch your friends date, marry, and build families. If this is your situation, let me first recognize your pain and frustration. […]

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A Novel Way to Fix Your Marriage

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Blog on 4th February, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Check out our latest article about getting your marriage back into shape, on Marriage.com!  This article highlights a positive-psychology based approach to making changes for the better in your marriage. A Novel Way to Fix Your Marriage Learn more about our couples counseling services here.

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The Best Gift You Can Give Your Children – Part 4

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Blog on 27th January, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

The last piece I’m going to post on the topic of why a good marriage is the best gift we can give to ours kids is probably the simplest: 4. It’s just nicer to live in a happy household than an unhappy one. Can anyone disagree with that? Who wants to live in a home […]

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The Best Gift You Can Give Your Children – Part 3

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Blog on 11th January, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

Continuing on in our exploration of why a good marriage is so vital to your childrearing endeavors, here is reason #3: 3. They’ll do as you do. Jimmy’s parents were called into school, where Jimmy was waiting apprehensively in the principal’s office. The principal sat down with the three of them, looking very sternly at […]

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Maryland Business Feature – The Baltimore Therapy Center

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Blog on 4th January, 2016 By Raffi Bilek

The Baltimore Therapy Center was featured on the monthly business blog of Lenora Nail Colors, another local business.  Check us out! https://www.lenoranailcolors.com/uncategorized/maryland-business-feature-the-baltimore-therapy-center/

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The Best Gift You Can Give Your Children – Part 2

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Blog on 28th December, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

In the last post, I opened up the topic of why a good marriage is good parenting and discussed the issue of household stability. Here is reason #2 that the best gift you can give your children is a good marriage. 2. Kids run on emotion. As noted in the previous post, kids are consumed […]

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The Best Gift You Can Give Your Children

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Blog on 20th December, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

When I get a call from parents seeking help with problems with their children, it is not uncommon that a large portion of the work actually needs to happen with the parents themselves. Unrealistic expectations, misguided parenting approaches, personal problems, and other factors play into this a lot. One important element that needs to be […]

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Rebuilding Relationships

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Blog on 10th December, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

A common dynamic that I encounter in doing marriage counseling is that one partner will want to convince the other of some aspect of him/herself and get frustrated/angry/hopeless when they can’t seem to do so. Let’s take trust for an example, in a relationship between hypothetical clients Martin and Tia. Let’s say that there has […]

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The Benefit of Gratitude

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Blog on 25th November, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

With Thanksgiving around the corner, a post on gratitude seems apropos. Gratitude occupies an important position in the positive psychology literature. Positive psychology is a branch of psychology that focuses not on pulling people out of negative mindsets, emotions, and situations, but on helping us reach positive ones. Its goal is to study and promulgate […]

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Sexual Abuser Exposed

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Blog on 11th November, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

News broke last night that a former coworker of mine at a community mental health agency was busted for sexually abusing (and filming) a 16-year-old boy whom he was treating. This was mildly shocking, as we were buddy-buddy in the office, and he was an awfully sweet kind of guy.  (As if this is all […]

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Organizational Tip: Moving Day

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Blog on 2nd November, 2015 By Caitlin Chana Hill

I just moved to a new house, and not unexpectedly, it threw my whole “practical home management” groove way out of whack. There are many things I still can’t find, I am getting used to the new places where everything goes, and there are boxes upon boxes yet to be unpacked. However, I did implement […]

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The Science of Trust in Relationships

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Blog on 19th October, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

In the short video below, renowned relationships researcher John Gottman discusses recent findings on the science of trust.  Significantly, he explains that betrayal is not the opposite of trust, and that one of the key ingredients of trust is commitment.  The great destroyer of a person’s ability to build trust in their relationship is the […]

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Couples Counseling Success Story

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Blog on 8th October, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

I recently worked with a couple that came in with a serious break in their relationship.  They were pretty despairing and didn’t know how to handle the problem.  I give them a lot of credit for the honest look they both took at themselves and the hard work they put into this.  In only two […]

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A New Approach to Dealing with Cheaters

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Blog on 1st October, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

I’m not saying I recommend this, but it certainly is one avenue a person could take… www.cnn.com/2015/09/24/europe/cheating-husband-billboard-sign Looking for information on this issue that’s a little more helpful? Take a look at our services for couples with infidelity problems at https://www.baltimoretherapycenter.com/infidelity-counseling-baltimore.

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Infidelity Now and Then

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Blog on 24th September, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

In the wake of the Ashley Madison leak, I got a lot of questions from friends and colleagues about the extent of the infidelity problem in America (at least, for those who consider it a problem). I don’t know that I’m really the best person to answer that question given that people usually don’t come […]

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#1 Marriage and Family Counselor in Baltimore!

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Blog on 1st September, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

Hooray! We’re listed as the #1 marriage and family counselor in Baltimore on Thumbtack.com! https://www.thumbtack.com/md/baltimore/marriage-and-family-counselors/ Contact us today for help with all kinds of relationship issues, including: dating marriage infidelity/cheating breakups trust communication conflict resolution …and more. Learn more about our counseling services for couples and families here.    

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The Deal with Insurance and Marriage Counseling

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Blog on 23rd August, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

At the Baltimore Therapy Center we frequently get calls that begin like this: “Hi, I’m looking for marriage counseling. Do you take Blue Cross Blue Shield?” While the short answer is yes, there’s unfortunately a lot more that needs to be said on this topic. The reality is that almost no insurance company will pay […]

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Boundaries: Inside and Out

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Blog on 6th August, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

Check out our latest article on the Maryland Addiction Recovery Center‘s guest blog! http://www.marylandaddictionrecovery.com/boundaries-inside-and-out

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What to Expect in Couples Counseling

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Blog on 31st July, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

Many clients call up for the first time wanting to know what couples counseling will be like. No doubt there is a nervousness there about starting a process that you don’t know much about. In this post I want to give some basic information about what you can expect from couples counseling and hopefully make […]

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Communication

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Blog on 24th July, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

This is a great relationship buzzword that gets thrown around a lot.  What does it do for us?  Check out this short video to see why we think helping couples develop their communication skills is so important.    

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The Only Thing I Can Give to My Daughter That Matters

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Blog on 14th July, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

I recently posted an article on Kveller.com, a site I enjoy sharing my personal experiences on. Check out my fun and educational story of the day I spent one-on-one with my four year old! http://www.kveller.com/the-only-thing-i-can-give-to-my-daughter-that-matters/ Learn more about our parenting counseling services here.

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Assertiveness in Relationships

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Blog on 1st July, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

Everyone has things they want and need out of the relationships they are in. Most people recognize that aggressive behavior is not a good way to get those things while maintaining the relationship at the same time – you might get what you want, but you might also find yourself with one less friend thereafter. […]

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New book!

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Blog on 23rd June, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

For those interested in the topic of domestic violence, a book has recently come out in which I contributed a chapter. The book’s intent is to help mental health/social service practitioners become culturally competent in working with clients of various religious backgrounds. Check it out here!  

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Sexual Abuse Prevention: Words for Private Parts

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Blog on 8th June, 2015 By Raffi Bilek

There is a difference of opinions out there as to whether it is important to use the proper names for private parts when teaching children about their bodies and discussing sexual abuse issues (i.e., not the latest news story but what they need to know to prevent it).  I stand heavily on the side of […]

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