Have you seen this alarming article yet? ‘Picky’ teen goes blind after diet of only fries and chips, study says. Apparently a British teenager refused to eat anything but “french fries, Pringles, white bread, processed ham slices, and sausage” and the lack of proper nutrients actually caused him to go blind.
So this is probably going to freak a lot of parents out.
Although I am not a nutritionist, I think I am safe in advocating that parents feed children a balanced diet consisting primarily of foods that don’t fall under the nutritional categories of junk food, fast food, and foods that never go bad. However, it is really important that we all note that the case that made headlines here was really, really extreme. Commonplace events tend not to make the headlines (“British child refuses to eat vegetables, gets stern look from parents”).
Please don’t read that frightening article and start forcing children to eat brussels sprouts. (Note: I never tried brussels sprouts until well into my thirties, and I discovered they are really quite tasty when baked with salt and olive oil. But I can see that kids may just prefer carrot sticks.) The teen in this article ate an extremely unhealthy and unbalanced diet. The vast and overwhelming majority of kids in developed nations just eat a partially unhealthy and unbalanced diet, to varying degrees. It is super unlikely that your child is going to lose an important bodily function as a result of their eating habits, despite having too much darn sugar in their diet.
I am not a nutritionist, but I am a family therapist, and from the perspective of emotional health, forcing kids to eat things they don’t like is a losing strategy. It sets you up for all kinds of conflict at home (not good), as well as food issues in your children down the road (arguably worse).
Getting Perspective on Picky Eaters
This is not to say you shouldn’t try to feed them vegetables. You should. But you should also NOT WORRY if your six-year-old will eat only pizza or noodles with ketchup for weeks or months on end. This is so for a number of reasons:
- It won’t last forever. I have only met one adult in my entire life who only ate pizza. The rest of them grew out of this phase.
- Pizza actually isn’t all that bad for you. It’s got carbs, proteins (cheese), and even a little bit of veggie (tomato sauce!).
- It takes a very bad diet over a very long period to get to the point of major bodily malfunction. Your children probably do not have anywhere near this poor a diet (and if they do, yes, you really should do something about it), and probably have not been at it for years.
- You ate plenty of junk food and lousy meals when you were that age and you are probably not dead yet either.
Again, I’m not saying kids should just eat whatever they want. You just have to weigh the pros and cons. Pick your battles. A loving and harmonious household environment is just as critical to your child’s well-being than a great diet. Certainly it is more important than getting them to try kale or whatever the latest weed is that people are eating.
Try to provide them with appropriate food choices. Limit the amount of junk food you have in your house. (Yes, this means limiting your own intake as well. If you’re eating chips all the time, don’t expect them not to.) Don’t force it. When you get into power struggles over what your kids are eating, everyone suffers.
Help for Fussy Eaters
Instead, here are some tips for getting a balanced diet into your children’s systems in a way that minimizes the potential for parent-child conflict:
- Provide appropriate choices. If it’s all about brussels sprouts, you may not see much success. But if you give your children the option of baby carrot sticks or cherry tomatoes, you may get less resistance.
- Avoid arguing, but simply state that dessert is only available once a portion of vegetables (or protein, or whatever they tend to avoid) is eaten. (I’ve heard that a hand-sized amount is good, but ask your local nutritionist or pediatrician.) Don’t get angry about it. Don’t even get invested in the results, because then they’ll dig their heels in just to win the battle. Let them choose. Remember, not having enough veggies this week (or month) isn’t going to lead to blindness. Really.
- Don’t insist on having exactly the right proportions of the right foods at every meal. If the kids eat only noodles tonight, maybe tomorrow you can serve a vegetable soup or something and it will balance out over a longer time period.
- Presentation helps a lot. Cutting a sandwich into fun shapes is enticing. Use veggie sticks to make a stick man. Or let them create their own scene out of cut-up foods.
- Be sly about it. Cut up some fruits or veggies on a plate and place it next to your kids while they’re stacking blocks, doing a puzzle, etc. Say nothing and walk away. You may find that the plate is emptier than it started next time you pass through.
The bottom line is this: your kids are not going to go blind because they are picky eaters. Picky eating is a niggling problem parents have had to deal with since children were invented, and the number of kids who have gone blind because of a refusal to eat food that was available to them so far stands at 1. Don’t get too worked up about this article that’s all over the news. It’s very sad for the teenager this happened to and his family, but becoming a vegetable dictator at home is not the right reaction.
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