Even good friends get into fights sometimes.
It’s frustrating. Troubling. Painful.
You really don’t want to be in a fight with your best friend, but you don’t know how to resolve it. You can’t simply give in every time there’s a disagreement. Perhaps that’s something you’ve been doing for too long already. But you’re afraid if you bring it up you’re just going to spark another round of conflict
You want this relationship, but at this point it’s just not quite working. Something needs to change.
Maybe it’s at the point where you aren’t even speaking anymore. And, well, you just miss your best friend.
What do friends do when they’re at odds and need help resolving their issues? Do you need to be married to get professional help together?
You don’t. There’s friendship therapy.
Or, call it want you want. Mediation, coaching, relationship counseling – you can get a qualified, objective third party to help you make a change and save this friendship.
What do you do in friendship therapy?
Well, here’s what we won’t do:
We won’t judge you. We won’t minimize the importance of what you bring to the table. We also won’t weigh in on who’s right and who’s wrong.
Instead, we’ll provide a nonjudgmental, open forum to discuss what has happened and where the relationship is, and we’ll give you the tools you need to resolve the problems yourselves.
What good is it if a professional can fix a problem for you if you can’t then take that and do it yourself at home?
We’ll help you develop new skills, new perspectives, and new ways of handling the issues that keep coming up. (Caution: these new understandings may help you in other relationships in your life as well, whether social, romantic, professional, familial, or other.)
We’ll spend time helping you open up to each other about the things that are hurting you in this friendship (and also about the things you love about this friendship).
You’ll learn how to talk to each other in a way that promotes connectedness instead of conflict. And you’ll leave feeling closer than ever before, and confident that you can maintain and even strengthen this relationship successfully, for the long term.
Is friendship therapy right for us?
If you miss and want your friend back, friendship therapy is right for you.
If you keep getting into painful fights and don’t know how to make a change, friendship therapy is right for you.
If you feel wronged and are seeking resolution, friendship therapy is right for you.
But the best way to answer this question is to come and find out for yourself.
Friendship Therapy in Action
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