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Counseling for individuals, couples & families


Porn in Committed Relationships Revisited
<p>One of the most read posts on this blog is where I talk about Is It Okay for Married People to Watch Porn? Recently a commenter asked the following question: What about marriage counselors that […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
May 30, 20194 min read


The 5 Things You Need for Family Therapy to Work
<p>There’s been conflict in your family for some time now, and you’re ready to finally get some professional help with it. Strong personalities within a family can make it very hard to change the system […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
May 13, 20194 min read


Why You Should Try Couples Counseling (Again)
<p>Is your relationship struggling, and couples therapy didn’t help? What else can you do about it? One answer is – try couples counseling again. Here’s why.</p>

Raffi Bilek
Apr 15, 20195 min read


How often do normal couples have sex? (The answer may surprise you.)
<p>How often do normal couples have sex? As frequently or infrequently as they want. This question is erroneously based on the idea that there is some number, or even a range, that we have to […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Feb 19, 20194 min read


Top 5 Couples Therapy Techniques You Can Use at Home (that really work!)
<p>There are many couples therapy techniques you can try out on your own. Here are a few you can start with today!</p>

Raffi Bilek
Jan 29, 20198 min read


Jeff Bezos is Telling You Something
<p>As the wealthiest person in the history of the world, Jeff Bezos can make news just by switching his preferred brand of morning coffee. However, the news of his impending divorce (and immediate attachment to […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Jan 11, 20192 min read


How to Make New Year’s Resolutions Stick
<p>New Year’s resolutions – everyone makes ‘em, few keep ‘em. Why is this so? And how can we do it differently so we can finally make our New Year’s resolutions stick?</p>

Raffi Bilek
Dec 26, 20183 min read


5 Tips to Survive Holidays with the Family
<p>As the holiday season bears down on us, many folks find their anxiety levels spiking in anticipation of yet another stressful family holiday. </p>

Raffi Bilek
Nov 19, 20184 min read


4 Steps to Surviving Infidelity & What You Need to Know
<p>Crushed. Devastated. Hopeless. These are some of the emotions you may be experiencing if you have recently discovered that your partner has been having an affair.</p>

Raffi Bilek
Oct 29, 20185 min read


The Escape Room: A Message for Couples and Families
<p>Recently I had the great pleasure of going to an escape room for a bit of family fun. If you’re not familiar,</p>

Raffi Bilek
Oct 8, 20183 min read


The Single Most Important Trait You Need to Develop to Save, Repair, and Maintain a Relationship
<p>Can it really be so simple? Is there really a Single Most Important key to relationships? Yes and no. Obviously there is no magic spell for fixing relationship problems or keep relationships vibrant and connected […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Sep 5, 20182 min read


Good Job is Not Enough
<p>It is generally accepted in today’s generation of parents that praise and encouragement are the tools of choice in childrearing rather than some past methods such as yelling, shaming, and, of course, whupping. Praise and […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Aug 9, 20183 min read


What is a first therapy session like?
<p>Most people have never been to therapy before and are understandably a bit nervous about what the first therapy session going to be like. If you’ve gotten up the courage to make that first appointment, […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Jul 19, 20183 min read


How to Get Over a Breakup
<p>The end of a relationship is never easy, especially if you’ve been together for years. This is true even if you know the relationship was going sour, or was unhealthy to begin with. The truth […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Jun 25, 20183 min read


What Do You Do in Couples Counseling?
<p>If you’ve never been to relationship counseling before, the whole thing might seem mysterious, confusing, and downright frightening. The truth is it’s really not as bad as you think it is. The representations of therapy […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Jun 6, 20185 min read


Making Your Marriage a Priority
<p>Recently I was interviewed on the radio to discuss the question of how to prioritize your relationship with your spouse vs. your kids. You can listen to the 20-minute segment here. Here’s the spoiler: I […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
May 8, 20185 min read


We've Moved! And It's Not Easy
<p>Change is hard. This is a truth I live by professionally, but it is also a reality in my personal life. This week we are moving to a new office, and I must admit that […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Apr 17, 20183 min read


How to Save Your Marriage
<p>Are you trying to save a marriage that’s on the rocks? Hoping to turn things around from anger and resentment to happiness and love? It can be done. Most marriages can be repaired if both […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Mar 14, 20185 min read


Is Texting Good or Bad for Your Relationship?
<p>Texting is a very wonderful thing. It allows us to send quick ideas and comments to our friends and families without having to catch each other at the right time. It’s great for adding to […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Feb 20, 20184 min read


Is It Okay for Married People to Watch Porn?
<p>Although there are arguably some pros to pornography viewing as a part of your sex life, there are a number of cons that must be considered as well.</p>

Raffi Bilek
Jan 30, 20187 min read
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