top of page
Counseling for individuals, couples & families


Techniques in Childrearing #1
<p>I’ll tell you a story. This story happened right around an hour ago. And I thought it was a good illustration of one of the principles I routinely teach about parenting, namely, distraction. With young […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Apr 8, 20153 min read


How to Be a Better Spouse
<p>Here’s a helpful, if not entirely novel, article published by Scientific American on bettering one’s marriage. I guess there’s a science to it after all! http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-to-be-a-better-spouse/ Learn more about our online and in-person marriage counseling […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Mar 29, 20151 min read


The Mama Bear Effect - Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Coloring Pages
<p>A friend of mine passed these along to me – coloring pages to be used in discussing sexual abuse with your children. Check them out at http://themamabeareffect.org/coloring-pages.html. I think they are fantastic! This can really […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Mar 24, 20151 min read


6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is NOT BS
<p>I recently came across this article by Laura Doyle entitled “6 Reasons Marriage Counseling is BS.” While I actually found myself agreeing with many of the author’s comments on marriage, I obviously disagree strongly with […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Mar 18, 20153 min read


The Truth About Married Sex
<p>I thought that this article about sex in marriage was really worth sharing. The basic premise is that sex in marriage is something you have to work at (like marriage itself, of course). When you […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Mar 11, 20151 min read
Why Moms Get Nothing Done
<p>Have you seen this video yet? This entertaining video gone viral by Story of This Life is generating a lot of conversation – over 3 million views on YouTube as of this writing! Many Moms […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Feb 24, 20153 min read


The Importance of Listening
<p>Another guest post I wrote on a friend’s blog has generated some interesting conversation. See the article and subsequent comments at https://incensefromthealtar.wordpress.com/2015/02/05/the-importance-of-listening. Learn more about our couples counseling services here.</p>

Raffi Bilek
Feb 8, 20151 min read
The Impact of Family on Weight Loss
<p>A guest post of mine on a friend’s weight loss blog: http://weightlosscounterrevolution.com/2015/01/30/the-impact-of-family-on-weight-loss/ Learn more about our family therapy services here.</p>

Raffi Bilek
Feb 1, 20151 min read


How to Recover from an Affair - When You're the Cheater
<p>Here’s another article I wrote on managing a relationship after an affair – this one directed at the cheater: https://www.wellness.com/blog/13274483/how-to-recover-from-an-affair-when-you-re-the-cheater/raffi-bilek Learn more about our work with couples and infidelity here.</p>

Raffi Bilek
Jan 22, 20151 min read


When Is Couples Counseling a Bad Idea?
<p>As you may have guessed, I am a big believer in marital therapy/couples counseling. I think it is helpful for a lot of people, and I think many folks would be much happier if they […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Jan 10, 20152 min read


How to Get Your Kids to Brush Their Teeth (and Other Stories)
<p>My latest parenting article in the Where What When: Let me start with this question: How do you get your kids to brush their teeth every night? http://www.wherewhatwhen.com/article/how-to-get-your-kids-to-brush-their-teeth-and-other-stories Learn more about our parenting support services […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Jan 3, 20151 min read


Make it Holiday NOT A Holler-day
<p>Are you sitting there feeling overwhelmed with all the things you want to get done for the holidays. In fact you may be running around hollering at the fact that there is not enough time, […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Dec 22, 20142 min read


Recovering from an Affair
<p>An affair is often thought of as a death blow to a marriage –the worst thing that could possibly happen to the relationship, from which there can be no recovery. The truth is that a […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Dec 14, 20141 min read


Parenting in the iPhone Age
<p>An article I wrote in a local paper on a modern-day topic: http://jewishtimes.com/31779/parenting-in-the-iphone-age/ Learn more about our parenting workshops here.</p>

Raffi Bilek
Dec 10, 20141 min read


Gadget-Free Bedrooms
<p>Here’s an interesting article from the New York Times on relationships and technology – how do all our gadgets affect our intimate relationships? http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/04/style/are-gadget-free-bedrooms-the-secret-to-a-happy-relationship.html Learn more about our couples counseling services here.</p>

Raffi Bilek
Dec 4, 20141 min read


Do You Need Couples Counseling?
<p>Are you in need of couples counseling? How would you even know whether you are or not? Here are some questions you can ask yourself to determine whether you are a candidate for marriage counseling: […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Nov 30, 20142 min read


Does My Mommy Have Two Mommies?
<p>Adoption is not just an event in the life of a person; it is on ongoing reality in the life of a whole family. The adoption experience does not begin or end with the adopted […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Nov 22, 20142 min read


How to Argue with Your Spouse without Solving Anything
<p>An article I wrote about spousal disagreements has been posted on wellness.com: Arguments among dating and married couples have gotten a bad name. Sure, they cause anger, frustration, tears, breakups, and divorces, but apart from […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Nov 19, 20141 min read


Playdates Made Easy
<p>This article made me both laugh and cry out loud! Becoming a mother brings children, mess, a larger wardrobe, and fewer friends. For people (like me) who thrive on social interaction and friendship, making time […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Nov 14, 20141 min read


How to Be Married to a Woman
<p>The sequel to my highly popular “How to Be Married to a Man:” How to Be Married to a Woman My article, “How to Be Married to a Man,” recently published in the Where What […]</p>

Raffi Bilek
Nov 8, 20147 min read
bottom of page
