“I Caught My Husband Watching Porn”

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If you’ve just discovered your boyfriend or husband watching porn online – perhaps extensively – you may be feeling shock, anger, disappointment, betrayal, and more.  You also may be confused about what this means for your marriage. Or, you might be very clear about whether you want to fix it or end it.  Many women feel if their husband has turned to pornography it means he is no longer interested in her or no longer finds her attractive.  This can take a toll on your self-esteem, to say nothing of your relationship with him. In reality, any reaction you have is understandable. There is no ...
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Sexual Abuser Exposed

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News broke last night that a former coworker of mine at a community mental health agency was busted for sexually abusing (and filming) a 16-year-old boy whom he was treating. This was mildly shocking, as we were buddy-buddy in the office, and he was an awfully sweet kind of guy.  (As if this is all not bad enough, he actually was a presenter for the sexual abuse program I used to run in New Jersey.) But the shock really only lasted about a minute. As a sexual abuse prevention educator, one of the big take-aways I try to convey to everyone I teach is that you just never know who is going to ...
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Sexual Abuse Prevention: Words for Private Parts

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There is a difference of opinions out there as to whether it is important to use the proper names for private parts when teaching children about their bodies and discussing sexual abuse issues (i.e., not the latest news story but what they need to know to prevent it).  I stand heavily on the side of “YES” and I’ll give you a couple of reasons why that is, starting from the least significant (which is still pretty significant): (Note: I am actually deliberately not writing down the names of those parts in this post so as not to get blocked by anyone’s filter. This post is for everyone!) ...
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The Mama Bear Effect – Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Coloring Pages

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A friend of mine passed these along to me - coloring pages to be used in discussing sexual abuse with your children.  Check them out at http://themamabeareffect.org/coloring-pages.html. I think they are fantastic!  This can really help children become active in their learning important principles about staying safe from abuse.  Remember that this topic is not something you can convey in a one-time conversation - it's something that you need to bring up from time to time over the course of your kids' childhood.  This is another tool you can use in this process.  They touch on some very impor...
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